In the end.

my best friend gave me the best email full of a collection of advice.

I don't know what I'd do without her.

Each piece we write, whether it is long, short, or a few words, is a mile marker on our grief journey. These markers lead us to new feelings, discoveries, and wisdom. Don't edit
yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring it all out onto paper.

Patterns may become clearer, and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to "get" valuable life lessons from the whole experience if you've been writing your
way through it.



No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself from having gone through it all with your heart open to both joy and pain.

Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you're meant to be.

Allow at least the learning part to enrich your life.

*Let go.*

Understand that there is no benefit in holding on to heartache,
regret, and hatred toward another person. Realize that although it is over, your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways.

You can congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.

there will be a next time.
there will be a next time.
there will be a next time.

Walk out of your heartache, knowing that you have done all that you can do, said all that you can say, and given as much as you can give. When you feel that you did your part as best you could, but he didn't meet you halfway, then you will not need to torture yourself with "what-ifs".

Remember that this pain just has to be survived. It takes a season of time to heal, like a broken arm - there is no magical, instant cure or relief.

You won't die from it, though you may feel like you will for a time.

Endure.
Endure.
Endure.
Endure.

Eventually you will feel better, the pain will lessen, and you will
be able to love again.

Taking the high road may be hard now, but you'll be glad later that you didn't stoop to the gutter, even though you could have.

Every day, find something that will make you smile. Smiling really helps, even at the worst time of your life. You are free to be whoever you want to be now, without thinking "will he/she mind if I do that?".

Nothing is more important than you.
Nothing is more important than you.
Nothing is more important than you.

Love yourself, love life, and when you wake up...


SMILE.